Congratulations, Elaine! Welcome to the KK Club (and the Autumn Nebula group!) That's the color of my KK, too. Stunning in the sunlight!)
Yes, it seems overwhelming at the beginning, but the learning curve is pretty fast. Don't fret the mistakes, we all make them, regardless of experience! Just keep asking questions and reading the Forum, it's the Wiki of kamado cooking!
I have used both chimneys and torches. I'm currently in the torch camp. I use this one and like it for the long reach.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00008ZA0F?psc=1&redirect=true&ref_=oh_aui_detailpage_o04_s00
While Amazon still has a few left, this model is no longer made, but there are others that are similar in design.